Your phone rings and you see that it’s your ex-boyfriend.
A little confused, you pick up, only to hear that he’s crying. What do you do now?
If you’ve ever had this happen to you, you know how awkward it can be.
You might still be on good terms, or you might not talk to him anymore, either way, it’s difficult to know what to do when your ex-boyfriend calls you crying.
How you should handle the situation really depends on the circumstances of the call.
In this article we’ll go through the reasons your ex might be calling you and the best ways to deal with it.
Let’s get into it!
Why He’s Calling You And How To Handle It
There are three main reasons why your ex-boyfriend would call you when he’s crying instead of going to someone else.
Often it has to do with your relationship, or lack there of, but sometimes it can be completely unrelated.
Here are the three main reasons your ex is calling you crying and how you should handle each situation.
1. He misses you
Guys put up walls to hide their feelings, so while he may have seemed ok at the time, there’s a possibility that your breakup really affected him.
One of the most common reasons an ex will call you crying is because they miss you and want you back in their life.
This situation can be very difficult to deal with, especially if your ex-boyfriend doesn’t usually cry.
However, it’s important that you do what’s best for you, even if seeing him upset is hard.
How to handle it
If you don’t feel the same way, it’s ok to tell him you’re not interested in rekindling the relationship.
Although you’re sorry he’s having a hard time, you think it’s best if he stopped reaching out to you and confides in a friend instead.
You’re not being mean, you’re just setting boundaries, so he knows you don’t reciprocate his feelings.
However, if you miss him too, this may be an opportunity to reconnect with each other.
Let him know you’re there for him and you’d like to start talking to each other again. Take things slow and see where the relationship goes.
2. You’re still friends
It makes sense if you are still friends with your ex that he would reach out to you when he’s upset.
Friends are often our closest confidants, and if you can maintain that bond after a breakup, there’s a good chance he trusts you and values your input.
Guys tend to be very loyal friends, so if he comes to you, he knows that you will be there to comfort him and give him the guidance he needs.
How to handle it
If you are still friends and your ex calls you crying, it’s important to be there for him and lend a listening ear.
He may need you the most right now, so make yourself available for him to let out whatever feelings he’s dealing with and give him either comfort or advice.
You don’t have to do anything big; just letting him know he’s not alone may be enough.
3. He has no one else to talk to
Another reason he might call you is if he doesn’t have any friends or family to go to instead.
He may find it hard to let his vulnerable side out to friends he feels may judge him, or he might not have any close friends at all.
He may also not have any family members he can open up to, making him turn to you instead.
How to handle it
This situation is difficult because you might feel empathy for him and feel bad about telling him you don’t want him to call you crying.
There are two options to handling these circumstances.
If you are comfortable helping, then feel free to let him know that you’ll be there for him. You can make it clear you’re only doing it as a friend, and nothing more will come of it.
If you’re not comfortable, you have to let him know, even if it’s hard.
You don’t need to be mean, but you can tell him you aren’t comfortable with the situation and don’t think it’s a good idea for you to comfort him.
Make sure you stick to the boundaries you’ve set and do what’s right for you; there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to open a door you already closed.
I hope this article has given you the confidence to handle your ex-boyfriend calling you crying.
Although it can be a difficult situation, it’s important that you aren’t caught off guard so you can do what’s best for you and your relationship!
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