We can ALL relate to having a bad hair day, not being able to find anything flattering to wear, or waking up with a big new zit.
It’s normal to have a few “off” days where we don’t feel beautiful.
The real problem is when we consistently don’t feel pretty or attractive enough.
It’s so easy to fall into a spiral of negativity when it comes to our appearance, especially when we are constantly bombarded with unrealistic beauty standards on social media.
Sometimes you might even find yourself questioning if your boyfriend still finds you attractive.
You might be in a super loving supportive relationship but it’s easy to be self-critical.
These negative thoughts and feelings can then creep into your relationship, causing you to feel inadequate for your partner.
Maybe you feel like he doesn’t notice you anymore or that your love life has been suffering.
So, what do you do when you don’t feel attractive enough for your boyfriend?
Well, there are a lot of things you can work on to improve your self-esteem and the way you view yourself, which will in turn reassure you that your partner finds you just as pretty as the day you first met.
Feeling attractive to your boyfriend begins with feeling attractive to yourself.
As with relationships, feeling comfortable and confident in your own skin requires constant effort.
Feeling attractive goes far deeper than your physical appearance. No amount of makeup will change how you feel about yourself.
If you want to start feeling pretty again, there are lots of non-superficial steps you can take to help change the way you view yourself.
Here are 5 things you can do to start feeling more attractive now:
1. Take a break from social media
If you want to feel pretty enough for your boyfriend, you need to spend less time on your phone.
With so many different social media platforms it’s easy to get sucked into the world of pretty, picture-perfect instagram influencers or vloggers.
Spending more time on social media has been linked to lower self-esteem and even loneliness, especially for young women. The charity Scope conducted a study about the impacts of social media usage. Nearly half of the 18-34 year old participants reported that scrolling through social media feeds resulted in feeling ugly or unattractive about themselves.
It’s not hard to realize why you might feel bad about your own appearance and not attractive enough for your boyfriend after looking at the filtered reality of social media. When using these platforms, you should remind yourself that what you see online is not an accurate reflection of reality.
Focus on following friends and accounts that you find positive and uplifting. Even when you enjoy an influencer’s account, pay attention to what you feel when interacting with her content. If you start feeling negative about yourself or wishing that you had her lips or body or clothes — whatever it is, this is a true indicator that a break from social media will do you some good.
Take a deep breath, set down your phone and enjoy the time with your partner.
Spending more quality time with your boyfriend will strengthen your relationship and make you feel better about yourself. Rather than having your attention dominated by your phone, step away from social media and the negative feelings you might experience and focus on reconnecting together.
2. Dress confidently
A great way to feel more attractive is to wear clothing that makes you feel pretty.
This doesn’t mean you need to dress in low-cut tops, tight skirts and high heels every day. There’s no need to try to be overly sexy, you just need to feel comfortable and confident. Clothing is the most flattering and sexy when you can see that the person wearing it feels amazing and exudes confidence.
Don’t hide beneath your clothes, let your clothes accentuate your style and personality. Find pieces that fit your body well and that bring you joy.
It’s easy to wear oversized T-shirts and baggy sweats all the time, and there’s no problem with that. However, taking the time to dress up every once in a while will accentuate your natural beauty and make you feel better about yourself.
Wearing outfits that make you feel pretty can be a great way to make you feel attractive enough for your boyfriend but the odds are your boyfriend loves the way you look no matter what you wear.
He probably isn’t very fashion savvy so he won’t care what clothes you have on but when he sees your confidence shine through he will love the way you look because he loves you.
3. Take care of your health
Another reason you may not be feeling attractive enough for your boyfriend is if you are neglecting your health.
It’s common to get too busy in life to make sure you’re staying active and eating right. When we get stuck in the same routine it becomes easy to develop bad habits, habits which can make us feel bad about our appearance.
Although eating healthy and exercising will make you feel more attractive to your boyfriend, you should choose a healthy lifestyle for yourself and not to look good for anyone else.
Eating healthier is something you can do together with your boyfriend. You can encourage each other to choose healthy foods by finding great new restaurants to try or cooking together at home. When you both are eating right you will feel good inside and out.
Staying active will also help you feel better.
When we feel lazy and lethargic it’s natural to feel bad about how we look. Maybe you’ve put on a few pounds or don’t feel motivated to work out.
Work together with your partner to become more active. Choose activities that you can do together that will get you moving. Go for walks together, take up kayaking or even rent a tandem bike and take it out on the town. Not only will you have a new hobby and spend more quality time together, but you will also improve your overall health.
It’s also been shown that participation in regular exercise can impact sexual desire and satisfaction. If you both are staying fit and working out, you’ll have more energy and feel better about your bodies, which can improve your sex life.
4. Stop comparing yourself to others
On the same note of stepping away from social media, you need to stop comparing yourself to other women.
Women tend to compare each other often, especially online, which causes dissatisfaction with their own looks. Studies show that comparison often leads to lowering of self-esteem.
The more you compare your appearance to others, the more you will inevitably feel worse about yourself. And if you don’t feel good about yourself and your own appearance, then you won’t feel good enough for your significant other.
The more you compare yourself with other women, the more you will worry about how your boyfriend perceives you. As your insecurities creep in you might wonder if your boyfriend would like you better if you looked a certain way.
It’s not healthy to compare yourself to other women and perpetuate your feelings onto your partner. There is a reason your partner chooses to be with you, and out of all the women out there he continues to choose you. So quit comparing yourself to others!
5. Plan a romantic date
Sometimes life gets so busy that romance takes a backseat.
If you’ve been dating for a long time you may forget to prioritize it.
Spending romantic time with your partner will make you feel special and beautiful. Whenever you get the chance to spend quality time together and remind each other about the reasons why you love one another, your self-esteem will rise and you’ll be reassured that your partner loves you and finds you attractive.
Set aside time for a romantic date. Plan an afternoon picnic in the park or a fancy dinner at your favorite restaurant. You can dress up so you feel extra pretty and confident.
Putting yourself in a romantic setting will surely enhance your feelings about yourself and your relationship. Use this time to reconnect with your boyfriend and be romantic. Making sure to have a nice date every so often will strengthen your relationship and remind both you and your boyfriend of how beautiful you truly are.
Feeling attractive and pretty enough for your boyfriend doesn’t require fancy clothes, excessive makeup or the perfect body.
Instead, try out these five tips to improve your self-esteem. The more confident you feel about yourself, the more beautiful you will appear to others.
Being attractive for your boyfriend doesn’t require changing anything about yourself other than your mindset.