So, you’ve been texting this guy and he’s just told you he wants to kiss you.
How should you reply?
Maybe the text came out of the blue and you’re not ready to kiss him, or you do want to kiss him but don’t want to seem desperate!
Here’s how to make your decision and respond to a guy saying “I want to kiss you” over text!
Decide if you want to kiss him
Do you really like him or are you just attracted to his looks? Would you be comfortable kissing him now or would you prefer to get to know him better first?
Take your time and ask yourself questions like these before replying to his text.
There’s no need to rush to give him a response.
If you want to think about it for a few days, but don’t want to leave him on “read”, you could always reply to him saying something like, “I wasn’t expecting you to say that, I think I need a few days to decide how I feel”.
Consider your relationship status
Is this guy a good friend or just someone you’ve been crushing on for a while? Do you see yourself dating him or just casually hooking up?
It’s important to think about how your reply to his text message, and actually kissing him, could affect your relationship.
If you have a crush on the guy, you might be super happy and excited that he wants to kiss you.
However, if he’s a good friend, or even your best friend, you need to really think about whether you want your relationship to go in a romantic direction.
Kissing a friend could ruin your friendship. However, if you don’t reject him in the right way, you might hurt or embarrass him, and he’ll become distant.
Decide how you feel and what you want before replying to his text. It’s totally okay if you don’t know right away.
It can also be helpful to talk to a friend about the situation. It’s often easier to make a decision after discussing it with someone else. If you feel comfortable, try talking to a trusted friend about how you feel.
Set boundaries and expectations
If you do want to kiss the guy, don’t feel pressured into doing anything else you’re not comfortable with. You’re not obligated to make out or hook up if you don’t want to.
Decide what you are comfortable doing. Then, think about how you’ll respond and what you’ll do if he asks for more than you’re okay with.
It’s also important to make sure you’re kissing in a place you feel safe. Will it be at your place or his? Have you been there before? Will other people be around? Will your friends know where you are?
Also, if he pressures you into drinking or smoking beforehand, it’s a major red flag!
How to respond to a text from a guy saying “I want to kiss you”
Now that you’ve taken some time to think through everything, you have to actually reply to the guy.
If you do want to kiss him
If you do want to kiss the guy, here are some ways you could reply to his text:
“I’ve been thinking about kissing you”
“I want you to kiss me”
“I can’t wait to kiss you”
“I want to kiss you too”
“I thought you’d never ask x”
It’s also okay to let him know upfront your boundaries and expectations. Just because you want to kiss him, doesn’t mean you have to do anything else.
“I want to kiss you too, but that’s all I’m comfortable doing”
“I’d love to kiss you as long as you don’t have any other expectations”
“I want to kiss you too, but I only want to kiss. Are you okay with that?”
If you don’t want to kiss him
It’s super hard to reject someone and tell them you’re not interested in them romantically.
But you should never feel obligated to kiss anyone.
Trust your instincts because they’re usually right.
How to tell him “no”
There are lots of polite ways you can tell him you don’t want to kiss him without hurting his feelings or embarrassing him. Just remember though, you don’t owe him anything.
“I like you, but I don’t think I’m ready to kiss you”
“I’m sorry, I don’t feel the same way”
“I like you as a friend and I don’t want to ruin our friendship”
“I don’t think it would be good for us to kiss”
“You’re a really great person but I don’t think we’re right for each other”
“I just like you as a friend”
If this guy really likes you and cares about you, he will respect your decision. If he doesn’t, it’s a big red flag.
When to ghost and block
Usually you shouldn’t ghost someone. However, if the person is harassing or threatening you, don’t reply to their messages.
If he doesn’t accept your answer and is bothering you, block him. If you feel unsafe about the situation, tell someone you trust—like a parent or friend.
Don’t feel bad for saying no. You’re allowed to set boundaries. Someone who likes you should never pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do.
If he starts insulting you or tries to make you feel guilty, block him and move on.
There are so many other guys out there, never settle for someone who isn’t respectful.
It’s normal to not know what to say to a guy if he texts you and says he wants to kiss you.
Spend some time thinking through the situation so you make the decision that’s best for you.
Whether you want to kiss him or not, I hope the examples in this blog post will help you reply to his text message!
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